Now, basing this off of what I talked about last week with moving to a new location, normally there will be those few people that think they're cool by being rude, or abrasive towards you and almost everything you do. Personally when I came down to S.C. I got lucky. I didn't have any issues with bullies, but I wasn't always lucky. Back in elementary school, I managed to have a little incursion with bullies. Now, I'm not going to get deep into what happened to me, because personally, it's a bit degrading seeing as how I could've stopped it early on if I had realised what to do about it, and that is why I'm here now, to tell you all on how to stop it yourself.
- Don't let outside forces conflict your judgement
This may be taken a bit strangely, but in general, you are your own person, and you'll have the final say of what happens to you. I've known some people that turn to other figures for help, such as God, your principal, or parents for help in getting them to fight your battles for you. In a bully's eyes, this is seen heavily as a weakness or a vulnerability that they can exploit easily, because they'll be told about it directly. As for God, before I go any farther into this, I respect anyone's religious choice, no matter who you follow or why. Personally I was raised Catholic, and bullied in Catholic school. I turned to God for help, yet had no response. I also went to the principal of the school, and that stopped the bully for maybe two days, then it was worse than it had been.
Long story short, you need to take your life into your hands and make a decision about how to deal with them. The easiest, as hard as it may seem, is to just ignore them to the point that they get bored with you. Bullies usually harass people to get a reaction or a rise out of people, mainly for entertainment or occasionally to let out angst that they've had, such as if they have a rough life at home with abusive parents, or if they were bullied by someone. But such as it is with the fish tank at the bottom of the page, if you stop feeding it, it'll die out. - Keep a cool head
Now, I cannot, and I mean cannot stress how important this is. In order to deal with a bully, you can't let them get to you, or your emotions. Be stoic, and try your best to completely blank them out of existance. No matter who you are, or how old you may be, this course of action is surefire. If you don't keep yourself under control, or don't block out what they do to you, you'll end up like I was, an extremely over stressed hot head that blew up in his face, and injure people around you, even if they're trying to help you. Blind rage is blind, so keep your head clear, and spirits high, no matter how hard it seems - Accentuate the positives
Yes, that was cliche. I apologise for that, but it does in fact, make sense here. If you're happy, or can at least stay positive in the face of hardships, usually it lessens the impact they make. This is extremely true in the case of a bully, because no matter how hard they try, if you just keep on smiling or just being positive, they'll begin to panic and figure out how to change it up to continue on your case. Use this confusion to feel even better about yourself, because you might not know how, but you've just used reverse psychology to your advantage, and let the bully know you've got nothing to fear, especially from them.
Now one last question comes to mind, how would one deal with this in something like college or a workplace, because yes, even if they are extremely childish, they too grow up, just a bit slower. All these rules apply to really any scenario with a bully, or just a jerk that harasses people for fun. But in case of emergency, or if you'd like to see more on this topic, be sure to click here and leave a response, comment here, or email me personally if you'd like privacy to work this out. No one is going to judge you here, especially not me.
I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.
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