Social Abnormalities Part 4

This week's installment of Social Abnormalities may be a bit shorter than the usual, as sadly I am running out of things to say, and myself am dipping beck into a slight depression, but fret not good readers, this happens to me at least once a year around this time. If anything, it's a benefit to you all because I tend to think better when I have more to think about. People tend to handle stress in different way, and a lot of times people just kind of buckle under the pressure. A good friend of mine just broke down yesterday because of the amount of work being slapped onto her from having almost nothing to do in school to everything at once, it tends to both psyche people out, as well as strain them physically and mentally. I, on the other hand, use it in a fairly dangerous way. Personally I ball up my emotions and such and just let them out as need be, not really whenever they come about. This is the worst thing you could be doing to yourself, because I've been doing it for so long I've gotten diagnosed with Depression, and not the kind you can cure by popping pills. As well I've had seizures because of how stressed I was, and everything I kept inside just forced their way out and the physical response from my body was said seizure. I'd like to reiterate, if any of you would like your story briefly touched here next Thursday, or a one on one session via email or IM, feel free to send me an email or just comment on any of my posts. You don't want to end up like how I did, having attempted suicide 15 times. Life's scary, but then again that's why I'm here, to help others through it.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Perfect Love Tis But A Dream

Everyone has those dreams of one day finding that person who is perfect for them, their Knight in shining armour of sorts, and just as well all of these people expect to turn out like the stories from popular media like Grease or Cinderella. Here's the thing that I've noticed though, is that most of the time sadly, they don't turn out like that. A fair amount of high school flings might not make it past sophomore year of college, if it manages to get past sophomore year of high school first. High school level kids and college attendees alike are normally very touch and go in this sense, as it is their first stab into this realm of finding out who they are, and who they'll love later in life, and yes, that was supposed to be a double entendre. And of course, what fling wouldn't be complete with, and I do mean this the nicest way as possible, accidental procreation? Pregnancy in high school is a big issue, but getting knocked up in college is normally a lot more scathing. High school you've hopefully got parents or someone to help you look after your new bundle of love as well as continue to get an education, but what about college? Most people want to go to college to get away from their parents, and will have a dorm or rent an apartment, so who's going to look after your baby? Now this may just be how I was raised to not end up like my father, but save the baby making for once you know what you're doing in life. But, I started this off as "Accidental" Procreation, not planned. This makes life so much harder, knowing that out of know where a child that you created had been born, and both you and the new mother need to make a decision so that this child can get a decent shot at life. I'll probably do a followup on this later.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Weekly Redeux

So the past week was a bit of a kerfuffle with flooding knocking us off of our schedule, but we went over some hard hitting topics, such as the benefits and conflicts with dating in high school, Other formes of social interactions for those of you that feel like you can't handle the pressure of face to face meetings, and lastly some music that I feel are great for unwinding whenever you need to take a break from your long days. This week, we'll be going over some more heavy hitting topics, as well as possible video coming the end of this week, if not the end of the month.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Music For The Overworked

It's yet again Friday, and that means both the celebratory hooplah as well as the weekend cool down from the week's struggles. This time round, I thought I'd share a few of my more favourable artists that help to take my mind off of the current struggles, and add a little bit of bounce in my step, and just finding myself humming along to these songs all I the time.

Elton John Playlist here. Elton John is a classic rocker, and bang on pianist from "Across the Pond", and all of his songs have a very calm vibe about them.

Billy Joel Playlist here. Billy Joel is similar to Elton John in the sense that they're both pianists from the classic rock era. Joel is a more rock oriented sound, but he also has plenty of songs that are soothing, especially if you've got a headache or some sort of problem about you that you just want to sit down and think a while about something. Joel is from New York, and currently still plays once a month at the Garden State, almost selling out every show.

If you've got anything you think would help others destress after a long week, please comment down below, I do this for you guys, and I want to see others take the initiative as well.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Social Abnormalities Part 3

This week in the strange world of social activities, I thought we'd cover dating in your high school career, but there's a catch. This is less of the "How to get a Girlfriend/Boyfriend" and more of a "Should I get a Girlfriend/Boyfriend" Of course ultimately it is up to you whether you do or don't want to get involved in this kind of relationship, so don't immediately jump down my throat.

As you can guess by my stance from our small introduction, I feel it's not exactly necessary to be in a relationship of this magnitude if you're only going through high school. In your high school career, you'll be highly swamped with grades, sports, clubs, and other extracurriculars. On top of that, you'll be having your close friends close by at most turns, and even jobs to juggle about. Within a 24hr time period, this seems like a ton going on in almost no time at all. Believe me though, I personally have been trying to find a girl of my own, but I lack a few things here, which most of you most likely have and use much more easily than I do, and those are luck, looks, and time.  But back to the point, it may be beneficial to have that significant other in your life, but remember, these are only four years where most likely you'll have the opportunity to see that person every day, or at least once a week. Plus the fact that, as you most likely have seen all too often, these high school flings don't always last. Sure, now and again there's that story that people who dated in high school stayed together through college and wound up married with kids by the time of your high school reunion, but let's be honest here. Those are mainly movies, or those lucky few who have found exactly what they're looking for. Again, I'm not saying to overall skip this type of thing, or dismiss any sense of puppy love as false or hormonal, but what I am saying, is to not look for one. By this I mean, try not to force yourself into a relationship with someone. It'll seem like a godsend, but if it's forced, odds are it won't last more than a few months. And the longer something like that lasts, the more painful it'll be when your dream turns into a living nightmare. A friend of mine recently had found a girl who wanted to go out with him, and he didn't exactly feel like he wanted to start dating like that so abruptly, having barely known this girl. Giving it a shot though, he's decided to take a test run of sorts, and see how she is exactly, in terms of likes, dislikes, and personality in general. That is a smart way to test the waters, no instantaneous rejections, and it allows both people to figure out exactly what kind of person they're looking for. Now this girl seems to have her mind slightly made up, or at least resolved on what kind of person she's looking for, which she feels would fit my friend there is always the fact that it may not go both ways, as it's widely known in high school. Either way, it's an experimental time period, learning who you are as well as what you like. Just keep in mind exactly how out stretched you may be already between every day life, and think to yourself if you're ready for this kind of thing.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Other Means Of Socializing

First off, I'd like to apologise for my lack of activity last week on Thursday and Friday. I haven't been feeling well, and as a result of sickness and other outside influences, haven't been able to post the past few days because of flooding knocking out my internet service, as well as my new found inability to hear correctly from one of my ears, so last week was a slight hell hole, but that does not give me the right to stop attempting to help others in their daily blights. So, back to our new topic at hand then, shall we?

So as it shows up above in today's title, we'll be going over some of the other big ticketed ways of getting to know some people in a less personal, yet a most likely easier way for a majority of people. Now I'm not saying that this is the safest, nor most beneficial way, but I can speak as it is a great breath of fresh air to meet new people in this manner and create some long lasting friendships. That's right, I'm talking about the internet. Now this can consist highly of social media and blogging sure, but this also encompasses things like YouTube and video games. I personally have a very close knit group of friends online, yet I've never seen them face to face because the vast majority of us are spread almost completely around the world. Out of the group of us, we're characterised mainly on where we live, and the group all know each other's general area, in case we're passing by and want to say hi. Now this seems like a horrid idea, but I've known these guys for close to three years now, and the fact alone that all of us still talk and have fun knocking around together online says something. Online interactions may not be the healthiest thing in the world because it robs people of that face to face contact, but it also extremely beneficial to those that really have a hard time fitting in, or that are kind of shy, like how I used to be for a time. This is also very beneficial towards people that are depressed and/or suicidal, as I was at one time. Just to put it into a state of understanding, I had tried to kill myself in a myriad of ways for a total of 15 different attempts. Looking back, this was the stupidest thing I could've ever done, and I'm glad that I had my online buddies, whom I'll most likely refer to as by our old group name unless I'm speaking solely of one of them. For their confidentiality, I'll by using their screen names. Because of Lannister, yes that's what we called ourselves, I didn't exactly have an input there, I attribute my life to them. The last three or four times I contemplated suicide, Drknyght, DreamZinc, and MachinBen had spent hours at a time, consoling me and helping me in whatever way they could. The group in general would get my mind off of things, while these three mainly had just talked with me, and let me work out some issues without severe judgement. After about three to four months of me coming out of depression, I hadn't gotten a chance to thank them for what they had done, at least not properly, as our lives shifted back into a school mode, so everyone came and went from their computers sporatically, but we had the idea to open up our own community of which backfired when someone had taken the profits for themself and faked a life threatening emergency. As I've stated before, each of us knew where the others were roughly, so given a username, an area, and a little bit of internet magic and tracing, we found our "friend's" number, address, and decided to ask him directly what happened. His mother had answered the phone, which shocked us because of his age, being the oldest in the group at the time, and she had said he was in the other room. This drove another of the group extremely close to the brink of suicide, and as well as compounding issues in life, this was a dangerous time. In order to payback my friends who helped me in my struggles, I helped him, and now he's off attempting to become one of the youngest economic history professors in his country.

Long story short, these online friendships aren't just online. They can impact people in ways never thought of. You don't need to shoot down every attempt at a random friend online, because this world isn't exactly the largest. knowing people around the world is a beneficial thing that our generation has the greatest access to. Think of it as a cyber pen pal. The Lannister boys are hoping to have a get together sooner or later, only issue is funds and picking a place everyone likes, but hey, that's a goal on my bucket list.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.

Social Abnormalities Part 2

Once again it is Thursday, which means you all get to have another look into the social abnormalities of the high school and college students here and abroad. This week's update of Social Abnormalities will sadly be coming up either later today or tomorrow, as I am not feeling all that well and cannot concentrate too well on this this morning.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.