The First Day Is Always The Hardest

Just to put things into perspective, this blog will most likely be centred around my experiences dealing with new and unfamiliar things in life after moving and other social acts. I plan to use myself as an example in order to sympathize with those that are struggling to adapt with the times of change, as well as give some form of advise to those who want it.

Now, onto the good part.

Some of you have the luck to have friends already wherever you're heading if you need to move away from your hometown, but if you don't, much like how I didn't, fret not. The first day is always the hardest, but only if you decide to let it be the hardest. Even if you're the type to easily shy away from people, following a few basic guidelines can help you now and later in life.

Be Comfortable With Yourself 
This can be a slew of things, depending on what kind of person you are. In my experience, I was the odd one out of almost every scenario, and even though it's slightly cliche, just be yourself. Growing up in a small town, most people remember you for what you've done, not who you are. Use this big change, whatever yours may be, whether its changing schools or changing countries, odds are no one will know you for what you've done, only who you are. So show 'em just who you want to be.


Introduce Yourself
I cannot stress this enough. As I said above, most people form their opinions over your actions if they haven't personally known you. So why not let them know you? People, especially teens, will be more judgmental of quieter people because they have nothing to go off of in terms of personality, likes, dislikes, etc. This is hard for some, especially those that don't much like to talk. Now, I'm not telling you to get out there, doing something you really don't want to, like pouring your heart out to a random guy on the street. All that needs to be said is some basic conversation items, like "Hi, my name is ____, I'm new here." Something as simple as that is normally enough for people to, at least, turn a blind eye in your direction, or start to make friends.


Find People With The Same Interests
High school and beyond can be a frightening place for the fresh meat, i.e. you and me, but just remember; everyone is unique, but that doesn't mean people cannot be similar. Once you've figured out who you want to be, hopefully yourself, and have begun to explore the big sea of people roaming the hallways/campus, look for people that share your same interests. This can happen by either being a bit more talkative for you more confident folk, but for those of us that don't like speaking all to much, clubs are a good alternative. It would allow you to know exactly who is interested in the same thing as you, and start as a building block to warm up to more people. If it turns out it isn't your speed, or you're not exactly interested with said club, there's normally nothing stopping you from quitting and looking into another one. In the same sense, there's nothing stopping you from joining multiple clubs, allowing you to branch out even more.

Using these above, you should have no issue fitting into the niche in high school or college that you want to. Be warned though, this is fairly generalised, and may not work completely for all people. I am always open for questions either here, or over Here.

I hope this has made a difference, and I hope you all have a lovely day.