Social Abnormalities Part 3

This week in the strange world of social activities, I thought we'd cover dating in your high school career, but there's a catch. This is less of the "How to get a Girlfriend/Boyfriend" and more of a "Should I get a Girlfriend/Boyfriend" Of course ultimately it is up to you whether you do or don't want to get involved in this kind of relationship, so don't immediately jump down my throat.

As you can guess by my stance from our small introduction, I feel it's not exactly necessary to be in a relationship of this magnitude if you're only going through high school. In your high school career, you'll be highly swamped with grades, sports, clubs, and other extracurriculars. On top of that, you'll be having your close friends close by at most turns, and even jobs to juggle about. Within a 24hr time period, this seems like a ton going on in almost no time at all. Believe me though, I personally have been trying to find a girl of my own, but I lack a few things here, which most of you most likely have and use much more easily than I do, and those are luck, looks, and time.  But back to the point, it may be beneficial to have that significant other in your life, but remember, these are only four years where most likely you'll have the opportunity to see that person every day, or at least once a week. Plus the fact that, as you most likely have seen all too often, these high school flings don't always last. Sure, now and again there's that story that people who dated in high school stayed together through college and wound up married with kids by the time of your high school reunion, but let's be honest here. Those are mainly movies, or those lucky few who have found exactly what they're looking for. Again, I'm not saying to overall skip this type of thing, or dismiss any sense of puppy love as false or hormonal, but what I am saying, is to not look for one. By this I mean, try not to force yourself into a relationship with someone. It'll seem like a godsend, but if it's forced, odds are it won't last more than a few months. And the longer something like that lasts, the more painful it'll be when your dream turns into a living nightmare. A friend of mine recently had found a girl who wanted to go out with him, and he didn't exactly feel like he wanted to start dating like that so abruptly, having barely known this girl. Giving it a shot though, he's decided to take a test run of sorts, and see how she is exactly, in terms of likes, dislikes, and personality in general. That is a smart way to test the waters, no instantaneous rejections, and it allows both people to figure out exactly what kind of person they're looking for. Now this girl seems to have her mind slightly made up, or at least resolved on what kind of person she's looking for, which she feels would fit my friend there is always the fact that it may not go both ways, as it's widely known in high school. Either way, it's an experimental time period, learning who you are as well as what you like. Just keep in mind exactly how out stretched you may be already between every day life, and think to yourself if you're ready for this kind of thing.

I hope this has helped, and I hope you all have a lovely day.